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MASTURBATION- Tips and Tricks

When it comes to masturbating there are many techniques both male and female can use to achieve the ultimate climax. First listen and interact with your body by touching and rubbing different areas in different motions. When setting up for solo play you can keep it simple or make it a formal affair. Setting the mood with candles and romantic music. How do you masturbate you might ask? A quick orgasm before you hop in the shower or before bed is great, but you want to consider it as a self care/love time for you. Take your time finding the perfect porn video, pictures or reading an erotic book to help get you in the mood. Start visualizing how you would want your partner to touch you. Rubbing and lightly squeezing on areas such as your breast/nipples and testicles can really get the senses going. Is lubricant important? YES! Rubbing a clitoris or stroking a dry penis for a long period of time can cause serious discomfort and irritation. Any water base lube will get the area nice and wet for pleasurable play time. 

SOLO TIPS FOR MEN

• Get a grip- Using one or both hands and glide the  skin up and down. 

• Mix up the pace- Rubbing out a quick one can feel nice. But you may also want to take your time when you’re first learning how to masturbate or to improve orgasm. Start slow then gradually build up pace in your motion. You can also interchangeably go slower and fast until the point of climax. 

•Tease the tip and the scrotum- There are a lot of nerve endings there and rubbing it can feel great. Techniques on top play may differ depending on whether you've been circumcised. Uncircumcised people may want to play with their foreskin by pulling it down gently. Now we can’t forget about the scrotum(balls). Stimulating the scrotum is a masturbating technique that can provide more pleasure. Some people prefer cupping the balls before the climax or gently massaging. 

• Trying out toys- While vibrators are for the vaginas of the world, you might like the vibrating cock ring. The cock ring will go over the penis to the base and will stay in place as you masturbate. There are also masturbating sleeves and skin like faux vaginas that can be used as well.

SOLO TIPS FOR WOMEN

• Develop a clitoral relationship- Most female masturbation is about the clitoris. This magical body part has so many nerve endings and no purpose other than providing pleasure. Start by playing with your clitoral hood (the flap of skin that covers and protects the clitoris). If you want more intensity, touch, or squeeze the clitoris itself. Of course, there's more to your genitals than just the clit, try rubbing the whole vagina. And also don’t be afraid to stick in a finger. There’s no right way to rub a clitoris you may go up and down or round. You may find it most pleasurable to hold your clitoris or clitoral hood between your thumb and forefinger and rub it that way. Practice makes perfect!

• Trying out toys- Let’s just say vibrators are a girls best friend. Some of the most basic sex toy options include wands and bullets. To stimulate the entire vagina, dildos or penis- shaped vibrators are  meant for going inside the vagina, and clit suckers that use air to mimic the sensation of oral sex.

Is Masturbation healthy?

When Masturbating our body’s releases oxytocin.  Oxytocin (love hormone) helps to reduce the feeling of stress for both men and women. Masturbating is also shown to improve your quality of sleep and help you fall asleep faster.